Written by: N.J. McCandless
(With Minimal Editing by Cee Collins)
I want to recognize the pastor who married us so many years ago. She's at another church now. She is a wonderful lady. I started attending her church then took my fiance along. Then I moved 8,000 miles away. She worked with my schedule flying back from Japan to offer us mandatory premarital counseling--equivalent to 6 months; being with her all day to get the hours in. She really set aside some time to do this. All day with us? Hahahaha You know pastors are busy already!
She was so thorough too. She said my fiance and I had already discussed a lot of things; we had.
The pastor went over everything from finances to child rearing. She didn't leave one stone unturned either.
This pastor gets to know her couples. Her homily at our wedding was as if she were related to us! It was wonderful.
One word of advice I offer anyone contemplating marriage is "premarital counseling." To me if a pastor does not make it mandatory then there's no concern about the couple's future. My pastor does not marry any couple without 6 months of premarital counseling.
After moving back to NJ the second time, this pastor even christened the children too. When we moved away and found a church she sent us the sweetest letter.
If you're not involved in a church there are private counseling services that also offer premarital counseling. If parents have a strong foundation first they will build a strong foundation for their children.
She was so thorough too. She said my fiance and I had already discussed a lot of things; we had.
The pastor went over everything from finances to child rearing. She didn't leave one stone unturned either.
This pastor gets to know her couples. Her homily at our wedding was as if she were related to us! It was wonderful.
One word of advice I offer anyone contemplating marriage is "premarital counseling." To me if a pastor does not make it mandatory then there's no concern about the couple's future. My pastor does not marry any couple without 6 months of premarital counseling.
After moving back to NJ the second time, this pastor even christened the children too. When we moved away and found a church she sent us the sweetest letter.
If you're not involved in a church there are private counseling services that also offer premarital counseling. If parents have a strong foundation first they will build a strong foundation for their children.
N.J. McCandless and her husband have been married for 23 years. They are military veterans with 2 children.
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